A common misconception about Aspies, in my opinion, is that we simply are not capable of understanding many social conventions, and that’s why we’re known for “failure” to follow them.
In some cases from my life, it is exactly that simple, but not most of the time. The whole of reality is messy and complicated, and there’s another explanation that accounts for more of this phenomenon.
Remember, Aspies think differently from other people, by definition. Sometimes, we have analyzed a set of social conventions carefully — for how else are we going to understand them? — and see them, therefore, for what they really are.
What are they, really? Well, some are insidious and evil. Consider, for example, the social conventions which have played strong roles in creating eating disorders. What good do those memes do anyone? Would we not all be better off without them? In a sense, then, some Aspies know some social conventions too well to follow them, and we do this on purpose. If you see through something, you’ll notice if it’s idiotic, and, if it is, then it’s perfectly natural to want nothing to do with it.
Not all social conventions are without merit, but many are not only that, but are actively pernicious. The ability to often identify which these are, and then avoid them, is not something I would quickly trade away.
I had a counselor ask me some questions about posture and body language.
At the end of this conversation, it was fully clear to me trying to justify “body language” as a legitimate language I was supposed to give credence to and try to decipher others body language and adjust my course of action to their body language was nothing more than “Emotional Back mail”. mental health professionals, the one I have encountered are Bullies.
Have you ever wondered why they are called Shrinks ?
I would bet money it is because people who are sent to them are assumed to be Fat headed narcissists, a word that they love to throw around to get people to BOW to illegitimate power.
They, “the Powers that be”, love to imply those who do not bow to the doctrine of some religion Must be Narcissists
either a God fearing servant of some religion or a Narcissist.
I am tired of this world of manipulation by evil bullies.